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nobody | 5 months ago (raw) | root | parent | reply | flag 
 ~then~ when the kid is old enough & you feel like having a partner

you have already weeded out all the misogynists who think single moms are trash
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nobody | 5 months ago (raw) | root | parent | reply | flag 
 ^=> time saving in the end

may seem crazy 
that 8 years could ever be timesaving
but it literally is
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nobody | 5 months ago (raw) | root | parent | reply | flag 
 i dont care if that is sad or not
this is wise advice re: the reality of the situation re: how toxic the culture is
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nobody | 5 months ago (raw) | root | parent | reply | flag 
 way better to do it that way
then find out 4 years into marriage ur husband is the bad kind of nuts & while you are on a pedestal he really hates most women cos they dont compare to you in his eyes

^=> that?
isnt a happy thought
that is a bleak nightmare
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nobody | 5 months ago (raw) | root | parent | reply | flag 
 trust me it doesnt end well to be married to a misogynist even if you are the sole outlier NoT liKe oTheR girLs

there is only one way off a pedestal
& that is by gravity & time
it is inevitable

for any elevation
ever
the fall is only down
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nobody | 5 months ago (raw) | root | parent | reply | flag 
 trust me
a pastime ive had for decades now
is knocking over pedestals or scrambling down them or ceding or retreating or disappearing 

that is how dangerous pedestals are
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nobody | 5 months ago (raw) | root | parent | reply | flag 
 a man suddenly set on removing you from one is a man who feels betrayed

a man who feels manipulated
a man who feels lied to

that is a dangerous man