i personally get tired of this rhetoric about how we are supposed to be fucking stage actors or something putting on a show for "followers"

i think if you think this matters on nostr you don't get nostr

nostr is a utility, not a way to funnel money from millions of idiots to a few selected "thought leaders" 

 I understand, but many great ideas only become reality because they are adopted by people who are more socially-minded than functionality-minded. There's a big area between the points you chose to reference, where all the stuff that will make this work happens. 

 i don't ever want to be surrounded by those types... i left facebook and twitter and reddit and all the other places behind long ago because they were like that

nostr will make private or more closed groups possible anyhow