Oddbean

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 I have enough experience with women to know my "theory of mind" for females is mostly sound. 
You're the oddball here, so the one who ought to be worrying is YOU.

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 Everyone thinks of themselves as special and different but even an oddball like you isn't that far out of spec.

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Everyone thinks of themselves as special and different

Statistically speaking - and I am not saying that this makes me by any means ‘special’ - eventually, you will meet an outlier. Given enough time and enough people, of course this is how things would go.

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 And you're not it

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 Don’t take offense to this - but you have literally done nothing with yourself, have zero ambition or opportunity to your name, and are not my peer to discuss the kind of person that I am.

This is an objective fact. If you want to pick a fight you’re just going to have to get it elsewhere. Now I am just all about getting rid of people whose repertoire with me is nothing but petty sniping.

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 I don’t worry, because the people I want to be around are the people who I would not mind them being themselves to any capacity.

This is the key difference: Those I cannot get along with I avoid, those that I can, I encourage. Sure, some people that I like are going to do things that I may dislike or annoy me. If those things were central to their character, I just simply wouldn’t be around them.

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 Poor owl just wants to be loved.
You'll find your prince someday

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 Don’t be weird.

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 One day you'll have a bf and he'll do something you don't like. You're telling me that's impossible. You're just coping.

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 I didn’t say that’s impossible.

If I could strike one word from the collective human lexicon, it would be ‘cope’ and any variation thereof - it’s widely abused and in the most inappropriate of contexts to boot. Thrown around all willy-nilly to the point of meaninglessness.

I said sure, that may happen but the annoying thing in and of itself wouldn’t be part of their core personality. Why did I say this? Because if it was, they would be an annoying person, and I do not like annoying people.

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 Sure 
But when he annoys you, you'll want to express to him that he's done something annoying, to deter him from doing it again. 
That's when you'll call him cringe

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 I just leave when people do annoying things.

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 Have you abandoned every man you were interested in because of petty annoyances?

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Have you abandoned every man you were interested in

The who?

Are you so preoccupied with being different from the other girls that you sabotage yourself?

This slays me, this dishonest preoccupation with the idea anyone who asserts that they see things differently is automatically “teehee not like the other girls.” If you cannot refrain from Manichean kinds of thinking, are you thinking at all?

I said, and I need you to address because this is critically important if you would like me to continue this conversation in earnest - that if someone has a central personality trait centered around something that annoys me, that I am going to avoid them altogether in the first place. That is it. This does not require some “I’m totally different” levels of thinking that you insist that I have.

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 >the who
Owl I hate to break it to you but Pete Townshend remarried in 2016