You are right.

Some ways nostr folks can help:
-provide concise feedback on github to devs on what is wrong, and what you expect to happen
-become a dev supporter, so that they can sustain their path to improving on VC funded BigCo user experience
-contribute code if you are a dev!

In general nostr dev access is unparalleled.

To help with your expectation, keep in mind BigCos have paved a lot of the way on UI, UX at a price tag of billions, whereas most nostr app devs are unfunded, part-time lone wolf devs. 

Looking forward to Jack leading Twitter for the third time, and converting to a nostr app and relay.