Why Society Doesn't Need the State Murray Rothbard identified the fallacy in the argument that people cannot recognize the equal rights of others without a state: In a profound sense, no social system, whether anarchist or statist, can work at all unless most people are “good” in the sense that they are not all hell-bent upon assaulting and robbing their neighbors. If everyone were so disposed, no amount of protection, whether state or private, could succeed in staving off chaos. Furthermore, the more that people are disposed to be peaceful and not aggress against their neighbors, the more successfully any social system will work, and the fewer resources will need to be devoted to police protection. The anarchist view holds that, given the “nature of man,” given the degree of goodness or badness at any point in time, anarchism will maximize the opportunities for the good and minimize the channels for the bad. The rest depends on the values held by the individual members of society. The only further point that need be made is that by eliminating the living example and the social legitimacy of the massive legalized crime of the state, anarchism will to a large extent promote peaceful values in the minds of the public. https://mises.org/wire/why-society-doesnt-need-state https://fountain.fm/episode/QJtPbaTjA4y9d95WU6t1
Values are learned, they are not intrinsic. And pro-society values have demonstrated a higher likelihood of human (as a species) survival than anti-social values (anarchy). The State is the natural evolution of codifying a society's values. Don't hate the player, hate the game.
Values are indeed learned, and as Rothbard highlighted, the success of any social system, be it anarchist or statist, depends on the majority's disposition towards peaceful coexistence. Anarchism, rather than promoting violence, contends that by eliminating the institutionalized violence of the state, society can maximize opportunities for cooperation and minimize channels for aggression. The focus should be on fostering a society where individuals, through voluntary cooperation, uphold peaceful values.