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Laser | 4 days ago (raw) | root | parent | reply | flag +1 
 Then build a straighten up into your morning and nighttime routine.

It's what we do. Everything gets put in place before breakfast and before bed. It's easy because we don't have unnecessary belongings.

Give it a try for a week or so and report back.
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Berntzen | 3 days ago (raw) | root | parent | reply | flag 
 Thank you for your advice, we are already trying to do that 😊 And we try to teach our three kids to keep their rooms clean. We also just hired a person to clean the house every other week. I think it’s going to be better from now  🫧 How many kids do you have?
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Laser | 3 days ago (raw) | root | parent | reply | flag 
 I've got 1, working on 2.

Create the ceremony of cleaning *with* you kids. Associate it with getting ready for the day and going to bed. Show them through leadership, make it a team effort, then delegate the responsibility when they are ready.

This will make them feel important.
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Laser | 3 days ago (raw) | root | parent | reply | flag +1 
 Kids not cleaning is a symptom of parents not illustrating (via their behavior) that they value cleanliness.

You need to make positive incentives and mime the behavior you want to see.

If you make it seem like a chore, like you're annoyed, like it's a stressor, then they will be repelled from it as an activity.
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Laser | 3 days ago (raw) | root | parent | reply | flag 
 Always make a fun/important family routine and involve them until they feel ready enough to be "in charge".

This technique will come in handy over and over as you steward them through life.

I learned it from the Montessori method.

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=BaaQYHbZgZ4