Install citrine. It will give you the link to the local relay it is running. Put the link in your relays. I added it to my private, search, and local relays in amethyst. That part may be wrong.
I got the insatll fine just haven't taken the time to understand the various relay types to configure.
I don't really understand the relay types either. I posted asking about it once but got crickets.
might be the info you're looking for