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 The divorce rate is pretty high in traditional religious countries too. I think it’s more to do with fiat. 
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They're under the same pressures. Consider this: divorce law gives women an incentive to divorce (free money). 
 The rates are high everywhere even in the Middle East when there is disincentive to divorce. Women that initiate divorce get nothing in Muslim countries. 
 @MAHDOOD @bitcarnicoin 

https://www.jpost.com/middle-east/article-713413 (https://archive.ph/kFyrL)

Increasing political and economic power of women. 
 Nice find! What is the incentive for these women to divorce? They don’t take half of the man’s wealth. 
 So religion preaches no sex before marriage, no infidelity and no divorce. What does this produce. Well you only nob what you keep and kids only come into solid relationships. Makes you responsible and accountable for your actions.  
 I see where you’re coming from. I think solid relationships are the most important thing for raising children, but celibacy doesn’t make your relationship much better. Using the Middle East as an example again, most women are virgins when they marry. In fact, if a Muslim woman doesn’t bleed on her wedding night, the man can sue her family for it. It’s seen as a disgrace. 

There are so many factors that lead to good or bad marriages. Compatibility, child rearing preferences, financial management, life stressors, in-laws, etc that impact a marriage. Yes it’s true that women are incentivized to divorce because they get half but women are also disincentivized to divorce as well. Divorce doesn’t look good for anyone. A lot of people stay together for the kids. I would also say that most women don’t just want money. And most men don’t have much money until they get older. The older the woman gets, the less incentive there is for her to divorce because she is less beautiful. So women are waiting until their late 20s to get married.
They have to be married to the man when he acquires the property to be eligible to receive half of it so it takes a long time for the man to actually build up something worth taking. By then, the woman is easily in or near her 40s. What did she really gain? What quality of relationships does she think she will have after? What about her children? These are all things she thinks about when getting a divorce and she still would rather leave the man. 

Yes having a high body count may make it more difficult to bond and stick with one person but it’s a very complex thing to measure. Some Christian women are virgins that want to save themselves for marriage so they get high off their “purity” and think they’re hot shit over it. So they jump from relationship to relationship thinking they’re worth more than they actually are. They demand things that are unrealistic because their hymen is intact. They want someone tall, intelligent, wealthy, muscular, religious, gives princess treatment, and helps with housework. Those are unreasonable expectations that will likely lead to marital dissatisfaction.

Divorce is very complex because there are so many factors.