Full self-sovereignty is a hefty burden! Some of us aren't ready to be hardware + software people, but there are some simpler first steps to wrest back control.
I only say this as a friend recently spent weeks recovering his node and decided to give up after all of his on-chain funds were recovered from closed channels 🥹 Which is why I'm super bullish on nodes becoming so stupidly easy to deploy and manage from Zeus and Mutiny.