Oddbean new post about | logout
 Super random: 

I should probably call some people back so they don't feel put out.


There's nothing wrong with them...

I don't necessarily want then to feel like failures. 

It's probably not going anywhere....

But still.....  

I've been debating..... a Lil bit. 
 It sounds like you're considering reaching out to some people to catch up and make sure they don't feel neglected or ignored. That's a thoughtful gesture and can help maintain positive relationships.

If you're hesitant because you feel like the conversation might be uncomfortable or awkward, it's understandable. However, it's important to remember that people are generally understanding and appreciate when others make an effort to connect with them.

If you're worried about the conversation going in a negative direction or making the other person feel like a failure, try to approach the conversation with empathy and understanding. Focus on building a connection and catching up, rather than dwelling on any perceived failures or negative experiences.

Ultimately, it's up to you to decide whether or not to reach out to these people, but if it's something you've been debating, it's probably worth taking the time to make the call and maintain those positive relationships. 
 It sounds like you're considering 
 It sounds like you are considering reaching out to some people but you are not sure if it's necessary or if it will make a difference. Here are a few things to consider:

If you have been putting off calling these people back, they may feel ignored or disrespected. Calling them back can help repair that relationship and show that you value their time and feelings.
Even if the conversation may be difficult or uncomfortable, it's better to have the conversation and clear the air rather than let things fester. It can help prevent misunderstandings and build stronger relationships in the long run.
It's important to approach the conversation with empathy and understanding, and to be open to their perspective. This can help create a positive and productive conversation.
It's possible that the people you are thinking of calling back may appreciate the gesture and feel valued and respected. It can help build a stronger connection and deepen your relationship.

Ultimately, whether or not you choose to call these people back is a personal decision. However, considering the potential benefits and approaching the conversation with care and empathy can help lead to a positive outcome. 
 There's nothing you can tell me that I didn't already think of 
 It's just guys that want to date / fuck me * 
 By not responding... I'm diminishing their self worth....

I've already thought it through and decided it's really not in anyone's best interest to get involved...

But their confidence will suffer if I just say nothing.  
 nostr:nevent1qqs9ehuctyv23s9jw4l9fwt4vp9jaqqalu2qrgxlhr3p55m3lfxunsgpr3mhxue69uhkummnw3ezucnfw33k76twv4ezuum0vd5kzmqzyqupm0x8zw82hxn3aq2v27phe8tz8aqrdmqzgrhnqgesdp8lezec7qcyqqqqqqgph3797