I seem to be getting things to work it's just hard for an old dog to learn new tricks sometimes. First order of business is to ensure everything is working properly.
I have several clients working, a relay on my phone and oh lord I have to have a wallet, lightening address, really kind of lost with all of the bitcoin stuff. I have a Blue Wallet on my phone but it's not connected to a client and don't know how to do that, I think I have my desktop Iris configured properly with a wallet and lightening address. 
Could someone zap me a satochi so I can verify that? 

 Just sent 21 sats a moment ago. Appears to have gone through. 

 Try asking the part about Blue Wallet connection again, but tag it asknostr. People are pretty good about helping on here. 

 BTCSessions has great tutorials on YT also.