I get that point, but by the same token it's also morally questionable to forfeit your share to steer it in another direction.

You can legitimize it AND seek alternatives and doing your own thing. They are not mutually exclusive. 

 I don't believe in democracy to end the state, you can use the state to reduce the state... but it's a dangerous game 

 Same. It's not impossible but it would be very hard. Most people seem to want safety (nanny State), not freedom (you fuck up, there are consequences).