I watched a video cast today that said something very interesting. Something along the lines of letting people be their own hero. You can be that guiding light, an offer, a hand, but they have to be the one to want to reach. 

One of the talked about examples, was a woman who was in an abusive relationship and was also caught up on drugs. The sister said when you are ready, I am your person. 

Eventually the woman called and said "are you still my person"

"I am putting my shoes on now." 

I guess opening the door a crack for them helps.