It's because people WANT censorship. 

Think about it,  why the fuck would they even want to use nostr that allows people to call them out on bullshit, troll them, see conservative news, not be able to ban people they don't like and be subject to seeing the word nigger, kike, transfag and everything else they don't want to see?

I'm not arguing in their favor. 

But their motto is, "no tolerance for the intolerant" and that ppl who disagree with them or don't accept their beliefs, should not be allowed to have their voices heard in ANY online space.

Your offering a space where they are stripped of the power to silence people. Why the fuck would they give that up? 

On reddit and the fediverse especially lemmy, they hardcore advocate for admin and mod control. 

I'm just not understanding how no one has considered this as one of many of the other reasons mentioned why nostr doesn't appeal to people.