have you considered that you’re retarded? even in a completely free, anarchic society you still have moral principles that are overwhelming shared. 
you can expect that to be reflected within a public square- just like how someone might come up to you and push you off your soapbox. 

this is how freedom is expresses itself in reality. with freedom you are preventing some arbitrary group having control over you, but individuals will do what they do. 

 I am retarded.

This is a good test for censorship resistance. It's reasonable to demand trigger warnings, but no removal.  

 no it’s not, you should not expect relays run by individuals to relay everything 

 What if it's a paid relay? 

 the principle is the same. you should at-least find out what you’re paying for before you buy something https://nostr.wine/terms 

 Sure, but a Tor only relay can broadcast whatever as long as the users pay. Permissionless, my nigga 

 yes that’s the core idea behind nostr. it’s not hypocritical.