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 I do understand where you are coming from. Society has conflated kindness and weakness. 
 People just know if you are kind, you are more easily used.

That's why kind people tend to have more "friends"(and drama, headaches, etc) around them than us "unkind" people who just say it like it is regardless of your feelings....

Unkind people may have less of a community, but it's one that actually sticks together, not sticks eachother in the back...
 
 I feel like you might have a different definition of kindness than I do. To me kind people are true friends, but they know how to call you on your shit, while also having your back. They will also be there through thick and thin. To me kindness isn’t just fluff and rainbows.