My experience is that it's not binary like that. A lot of people develop through taking care of others (parenthood).
And then as I say in post - a lot of people never make it about others. I've witnessed many millionaires (some self made) who are still running self actualization threadmill - oh, when I have tens of millions - then. Then they get that... but are further away from finding peace.
One of the biggest obstacles to growth I've seen in people is that make everything about themselves. Not everything happens to you or for you. The higher you climb the more it is about others.
When struggles starts - no matter what happens - on your end it's all about staying productive, being a good person, and doing the best you can. That's all.
Yes, you are there because of the experiences and skills that you have. But maybe you're also there to be an example. Martyr. You could be part of someone's test. You never know how Universe wants to use you.
After going through all the life experiences and startups in the last two decades - the only moments I regret are those when I lost control and lashed out, blaming and hurting others.
On the other hand, if I managed to keep control and stay the course, it has paid huge dividends. I've had engineers come back in decade and admit they've been assholes causing problems, only to end up being critical for the projects I'm currently on. Young startup founders who followed my struggles and wanted to know details behind them so they can do better. Or my favorite - VCs that have been following me on Twitter for years... and complain they can't shitpost (I explain that they can, but not high success rate there).
The most important part: don't allow pain to provide opening for corruption to seep in, allowing others to vilify you. Stay the course and do the best you can. Protect others that are overexposed. The more you can honestly channel the truth you feel, the better in tune you'll be to manifest whatever outcome Universe wants you to manifest.
guys, it's just nsec... and one note so far; not too bad. worst case scenario something terrible gets posted, I'll just disown it from https://x.com/r0ckstardev
in the meantime, we keep the party going 🥳
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