I care about other people's highest good as well.
If I can carry their weight in a net positive way (add 10% to my burden, but makes them 50% faster), so be it.
I have accepted that part of my character is to gladly hear what others think and adjust... take L if someone can create bigger W.
But with people who are consistently dishonest even that is problematic - the more value you create, the more they'll try to make you look bad, so they can look good (and have excuse to take value from you).
Relationships in which you can be fully honest are great in that sense - you may clash a bit more, but you'll both be yourselves always... and won't run into stated problem.
stop being honest with people
that are not honest with you
it's not you, it's them
there is nothing you can do.
the attention
the loyalty
the effort you put in
are all pointless
they have made their choices
and those choices do not include you.
so, move on
stop the talk
and
walk the walk
journey the journey
to find where you truly belong.
keep in mind this is also useful in reverse:
if you're dishonest to people that are honest to you - save your soul by giving back all they gave you, do the best to equip them for the journey ahead and start it
PSA: I almost never read DMs here on Nostr (and it will stay that way at least until we progress to a point where it's not trivial to see who is DMing who).
If you're trying to reach me - https://chat.btcpayserver.org is the best way.
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