I don’t like Harari either btw. 

The point I’m making is more about how you deal with the broader world outside close family structures. It’s also about dropping cultural identities in favor of individual acumen. Focus less on god given traits and more on what you can achieve with or without said traits. 

That said as a man within a family structure you are loved conditionally, while expected to provide unconditional love and support. Just the nature of being a man.