Are you using brave on your desktop? I had some issues with Iris so I switched to a different client - try coracle.social
Thanks for replying - yes brave on desktop. Will check coracle, thanks for the tip!
You're welcome- there's a lot of different apps out there so if one doesn't work the way you want/need/expect then it's always worth looking at others. There's also https://nostrapps.com/ which is chock full of different nostr apps for various use cases