I am not trying to make a dark pattern.  

I had to call cloudfodder yesterday to ask if this was doing it right or wrong but i don't have all day to go back and correct things, I'm usually doing a bit here and there between 12 - 1am, that's it.  So I will correct this accordingly, but given the time constraints, I am SLOW and me not knowing "the right way" to do things, I put it on a test relay. 

To be honest, it would have more helpful if people actually gave me constructive feedback directly instead of having to dig to find this thread. 
I'm not fluent in nostr implementations, if my 1 hr a night dev sucks ass for you, sorry. 

Here is what I think - If you want to encourage more devs to build in the space, then please do let me know how things can be better, and like, especially afaik there are hardly any female devs??? here to begin with, don't tear us down. I don't have a lot of help. I don't have a lot of people to even talk to, this is already hard enough doing it in isolation. 
 
If  nobody is happy with what i'm putting out there for free at <10hrs a week, I am happy to take it all private for me and my frens. Just want to let you know since I'm not 100% all in full time on nostr dev!