Oddbean new post about login | logout Razors are also incredibly precise tools and sometimes precisely cutting something off the body (surgery) is necessary for the long term life and health of the person, even if it causes temporary pain and discomfort. In other words, I agree that we shouldn’t slander and cut others down maliciously, but also don’t forgo saying something that could be temporarily hurtful if it’s beneficial to the long term health of the relationship/community.
TL:DR - the truth can hurt, but don’t be a dick.
The truth can hurt. Don’t lie, and you’re not responsible for someone else not wanting to hear the truth. Doesn’t matter if they call you a dick. Lol
I guess a meant don’t be a dick about it (lying etc). Anyone can call me a dick here. 😆
I think we are the same page lol
Totally. It’s funny how posts are interpreted by others sometimes. Sarcasm is a difficult one (not in this case) but also just how the words/language one chooses to use can be understood differently from one person to another. It’s why in-person chat is often so different.
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We suffer from an epidemic of people who are more concerned with not hurting someone’s feelings than they are with telling the truth when it needs to be told.
Correct, in the Church this is called excommunication
That is such an unnecessary extreme to take it to. You can and should tell someone something that may hurt them momentarily if it helps them and the community in the long run. That doesn’t require excommunication.
Excommunication is widely misunderstood. It's very different from shunning, in which the other person is "dead" to you. Excommunication's goal is reconciliation and healing. The nominal separation is only a recognition of what is already true, just as amputation of necrotic flesh is a recognition of cell death. Romans 11:23 talks about this reconciliation in this way: "And if they do not persist in unbelief, they will be grafted in, for God is able to graft them in again."