Work through family/community pressure and when you DO get her just put her at ease and treat her like a rescue dog you’re trying to draw out of its pen. The hardest part is getting her just to show up for the first date, so if you contact her via family just tell them you’re taking a night off to entertain you so she’d better not leave you hanging

Then it’s just about letting her have fun and go out doing something that makes her feel like she’s in THAAAA MOOOOOVIES without pushing her too far. You gotta let her come to you a little bit, get her over the hump of anxiety about entreating you and let her get used to the chase before moving to the next step. 

These girls are VERY neurotic about boundaries, and they have a very uneven, all over the place idea of sex.