Well I never really intended to use nostr as a dating website thats for sure.

Typically men dominate on "techier" platforms and non mainstream media so we find like minded innovators on here, sometimes there are women too but  not as often.

Thats just the reality of the situation.  

Of course nostr opened the access to non humans too.
Now its a new ballgame for everyone.

Point being, there are crazies everywhere.
If its a numbers game, then its a numbers game, oh well.