OK, done. Also, reply guy found me and it was getting annoying, then I remembered something someone posted about reflecting back their posts... Then I got it.  The light switch came on... So because these messages are encrypted, the relay owner sees traffic, but the relay owners regard themselves as a special finite resource and the replies are a nuisance to the relay owners.  The ability of clients to auto-add relays for greater network effect also increase the chance of cross-talk on "distinguished" relays, excuse moi! So the reflected replys are an attempt to "encourage" a particular npub to drop the "special and distinguished" relay from their list of relays... Am I understanding the reply guy issue correctly?  However without better instruction for complete noobs (me), the reflected replies are discouraging at best if not prohibitionist in their effect. With this knowledge I knew what to do... When you get a reply guy repeating your posts, go click on the reply guy's profile, scroll over to the relay list that shows your mutually shared relays and remove the relays from your list and hit save.  Is this the way to fix the reply guy problem?  We noobs have connected to a relay, uninvited... unbeknownst to us and with no knowledge of how to uninvite ourselves, the reply guy bot was invented to provide "encouragement" to remove the relay from our list of relays. Is this close to a correct understanding?