one of the most predatory aspects of family consensus pools is when you in-real-life divorce an abuser, and the pool continue to try and promote some sort of secret shadow attachment. completely untrue, extremely dangerous in your real world survival, and fundamentally destructive to independence. it is intentional. and is also abusive by those who promote those narratives in the pool. 

it takes 2 decades to extract yourself only to be systematically destroyed by social policing and shadow abuse erosion, because: profit narratives.