All of the 12 step programs acknowledge that the first step to improvement is admitting you have a problem, yet almost everyone thinks it is hateful to point out a person's problem.  

The most loving thing we can do is to gently point out a person's sins and lead them away from their sins and to the Savior.  It is much harder to do, but it is the one thing we can do that is done for their good.  Affirming their sins causing hardship and pain in this life and in eternity. 

 first step to fix your problem should always be knowing you have a problem.  😉