To understand how close we are to have too much gravity, just look at the payload-to-total-mass ratio.

Except for SpaceX, the ratio is between 1% and 2%, meaning the useful stuff you can bring to orbit is only 1 to 2% of the total mass. 98-99% of the mass of a rocket is its structure and its fuel. This is due to what's known as the curse of Tsiolkovsky's rocket equation. A tiny bit more gravity and the 1-2% becomes 0%.

SpaceX Falcons are around 4% payload mass. Saturn V was 4% too.

Catching Super Heavy booster with the chopsticks means the booster doesn't need legs, which would be pretty heavy given that it's tall. By removing legs the payload-to-total mass ration improves quite a bit.