every user should also be a relay.  

this way we would be able to have video uploads for example.

basically merge bit torrent and nostr.

you need to give up on the absurd fantasy that nostr will ever be for the masses.

accept that nostr will always be for select few and make it MORE demanding to use, not less.

demand every user be a relay with minimum requirements for bandwidth, storage and uptime.  then depending on how much you offer as a server / relay is also the level of service you get in return ( can you stream 4K video hosted on Nostr ? etc. )