Now we’re talking. I do think it’s detrimental to a marriage for both spouses to have two totally unrelated jobs with two totally different sets of bosses, co-workers, clients, etc. But working together in a family business? That sounds like the dream. 

Obviously many people make the two separate careers thing work, and they find other ways to connect and integrate. I just think they are starting from a challenging position. 

And then, yes, of course, the home-making and child-raising is a more demanding job early on, so being able to transition in and out of that is a question to address.