Give the user a prompt to choose network type, then connect. 

 It might be too much info for new users. Gotta figure out a way to boil this down to grandma. 

 Ask the user to choose the answer that matches him the best:

-the internet is made of tubes 👴🏻
-dev knows best, me follow dev 🐑
-mf I know what I’m doinggg 🥷🏼 

 https://i.nostr.build/B51um3tNwMZAGBiB.jpg 

 yes this is how UX is ideally done for broad audiences 

 dont request from relays, publish to relays, or pull media for pfp, banner, images etc until user specifies whether they want tor or clearnet on the initial opening of client if never set.

existing users can default as it is today 

 This. 

 2nd this.