It sounds like you have a personal problem & like to create these situations on purpose around you for the attention. Maybe you need to change everything about yourself so you don't have these issues.

Why don't you show what you look like & wear on a weekly basis? I bet I could find everything wrong. To answer your question your not obligated you just need to understand that it's a fundamental part of building a foundation also known as making a relationship work. If you can't do that from the start people will see you as a bitch who is only worth a fuck. You of all people should understand this as your quick on the offense so is any person you date if your tone of voice sounds like you have an attitude or are just irritated the whole time your with them. Men don't think that's cute it's annoying & in 60 seconds the mind can be made up shes a bitch she'll never be a good wife only worth a fuck & i'm done.