It sucks that guys often don't have anyone to talk to about the things they are dealing with.


So true. And for whatever reason. We rarely tell each other stuff.


And, people wonder why male suicide rates are way up


you just never know if that other person is going to care or want to hear it


They expect you to just suck it up.


it makes sense, people are ever more isolated and talk online and lack meaningful face to face connections so you don't get to vent much.


Yep, all while dealing with their demons


So true


Yup. We are expected to be strong and just take all the weight on to us. It’s hard. I have very few people I feel like I can go to when shit gets difficult. 😣


Carnage I know that somebody there’s a young man on here that actually I think he said I’m like the but the mom or something which I thought was awesome because I can’t be peoples mom but as I pitched it earlier, I can also remember who I was at different ages, so in the future There’s a code written to show this is how this person you know what I mean of account, so what do you wanna do? I actually remember writing this out is it mean the median or the metaphor and then you were like what and I wrote out meta-META and then I put four and you were like what are you talking about and I said trust me meta-is going to be big someday and when that happens, you cut him down and you remind Zuck why and it’s not Zack it’s Zuck it’s Zuck ZUCK and he will think about all the children who lives well if you know you know and if you don’t you don’t and trust me if you don’t, you’re very lucky because I’ve warned other people you will never know what other people have done for you to live in your willful ignorance and if you live in the United States, and you think that you’re gonna take my United States flag away from me as an American veteran, you can go fuck yourselves I’mLadyRed


"bE a MaN" 😔

People need to realize guys have feeling too. We've just been trained not to show it.

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I feel this.


I know you don't know me, but I'll listen. This actually goes to anyone in the space dealing with things - my DMs are always open.


It's just sad. It's why I've been working on treating people I meet with a smile and wishing them a good day because you never know what they're going through and that could make their whole day.


Even paying or a coffee online at the coffee shop. Easy way to brighten someone’s day.


That’s because men are evil and are supposed to take the hit on literally everything and then also be ridiculed and demeaned for it, and then are expected apologize to everyone else for having actually found some success through all the bullshit.


sure, but imagine the inverse... never having to deal with figuring anything out by and for yourself...

#aurelius


I got a dudes bill last week because he was counting a bunch of change. Grabbed my phone and slapped it on the NFC reader before he knew what was going on. He was so happy which in turn made me happy!!

#SpreadTheLove


All by design…


Same here.


That’s one of my favorite moves lol feels good.


I’m here to listen. Let’s all be there for each other.


Male therapy: https://youtu.be/LS-ErOKpO4E?si=SQDVsMpkOyBVRo4D


🙃

https://apnews.com/article/yulia-navalnaya-navalny-death-92efe8fa54fa6a6614fb3433c27e4878

Christmas comes with too.


Can’t come to Berlin, they’ll export him back to New Europe for the first contact.
🧐


Iroverts winning


Im finding out that when shit really really hits the fan some people show up but definitely is about when you’re hitting rock bottom 😔


M✨🐳👀💥🍯🐝🐍🤯🪽🤍🔥


Best conversation I’ve ever had.


🕊

The masculine and feminine is so distorted. Not easy to rebalance in this dense place of distraction. But very possible and worth it!


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It sucks that guys often don't have anyone to talk to about the things they are dealing with.


use friends from socializing;


So true..


Be a mentor! 💜


This is incredible 😂


dealing with constant work and little social life at the moment ... there u go 😉


I have a close circle of around 4-5 bros where I can talk about literally anything without judgement... Try finding those people and hang out to them


Yah. But we need different talk. . . War talk. Tragedy talk. Victory talk. Defeat talk. Exhaustion talk Lotsa shid talk. And then some "OK lets get back at it" talk. U know man stuff

Need iron to sharpen iron.

We need to be unashamedly men.

Falling down is not weak.
Staying down is.
Leaving your fren down is a sin.


don’t surround yourself with ego bros.


Hit me up anytime you need to chat. I'm here for you. 🫂


sometimes you just have to talk … you will be impressed how many of your friends will listen 🫂


I have a big aversion to spending time with people outside my family. Often feel like ... there are a hundred other things I should be working on, but I'm not sitting here with this person who probably wouldn't even come to my funeral.

We've lost a lot of in-person community as the internet has come online.


just scream into the void


So true. And the older you get the less likely that will change.


Aww


when shit the fan, i had nobody. now i know who is fair weather and who isnt and worth spending time with?


Yes!


True, I feel the same sometimes . Still gonna try. 💖


men are socialized from day 1 to not be vulnerable...so you get to adult hood and its lonely and isolating at times and without that ability to connect you lose old friends and miss new friend opportunities..

 we aint got the tools to deal with it, its sad and fucked up 😔


If you're a UK pleb may I recommend Andy's Man Club?

It's a suicide prevention charity which is focused on giving blokes a chance to talk.

I told y'all that my friend died last week. It fucking sucks. He was inspirational bloke and I didn't always feel I deserved a friend of that quality. It's a lot to live up to.

Anyway, he spent the last few years working for AMC and saved a lot of lives.

https://andysmanclub.co.uk/

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Agreed


respect.

respect.


Hardest thing is to know what I really want.


Extremely short 🙃


Here for you, whatever you need.


I am blessed with a very close friend circle of just enough to fit on one hand to whom I can talk to about everything, bar one guy. Everyone else I can turn to any time. It's been a seriously great help and confort. <3


:POGGERS:


Agreed. Since moving 20 hours away from where my family and friends live, I have effectively reduced my circle to zero. Nobody here is quite like me, so it's difficult to fit in, despite being very social.

My wife can really only do so much.


It starts with you.  Be the man who will start a hard conversation. Don't be afraid of asking scary questions.

It wasn't until my late 20s that a man did it for me. And it woke me the fuck up.

We lie to ourselves when we're alone.


Just tell me who where needs to be punched and I'll do it.
And why are you not talking to your community here? It's literally my only vent I got except my husband. And it works so well.


this is literally what friends are for

not acquaintances, not colleagues, not nerdnyms
lindy is a significant friendship strength factor imo

true friends irl are scarce and valued 🤝


we are here, truly, and always


Can't wait till Free Talk eventually ends up here. Kings supporting kings, and dudes rocking:

https://www.reddit.com/r/barstoolsports/s/iQF06XfXvr


For straight men, their best and only friend is usually the girlfriend or wife after mid-20s and up since most guys only discuss things like sports vs actually having a real conversation about things that matter.

Or if lucky, they may have a close female friend who they can talk to like me, but then I end up being their unpaid therapist.

It shouldn’t be that difficult for straight men to bond beyond watching sports and drinking but talking about feelings and sharing life stuff. Sensitive, artsy men do and so do gay men.


Boys may not have. But men choose, brother.  We are here.
We witness, accept, and heal together.


This verse helps me when I feel like that…Psalm 34:17-18 The righteous cry out, and the Lord hears them; he delivers them from all their troubles. The Lord is close to the brokenhearted and saves those who are crushed in spirit.


Onward 🫡

Onward 🫡


Men need other men. I am here for you man! 🤜🤛 🫂


Just suppress your feelings. Serenity now.


Did not know I needed that, thank you for sharing.


It appears your lack of support has been grossly exaggerated.  :P


No question. I know this, have friends who would probably listen, and *still* tend to keep things close to the vest. But I'm grateful for my wife as she's always open to listening - even if I might not be particularly forthcoming. But I know many men don't have that good fortune. #grownostr

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thats' not how men work


Lol.  At least unrecognized.  Same goes for most of us. However, I think men are forged OR broken through having to work through shit ourselves.


There are straight men who DO talk to their friends about actual, substantial life stuff.

But they tend to be sensitive and more secure in who they are as men and in touch with their feelings and emotions.

More artsy guys than most typical men tho.


#masculineFrame a la LZRhodl. The internal struggles of man are always the hardest ones to deal with. The sense of brotherhood or  comrodery with those that views align with your own is a good space to have. Being social creatures of varying degrees its important to know that something like this can exist if needed. But I also feel like theres a trap where one can lean on it infinitly worse than if they worked out the issues within themselves.

The battle has always been YOUvsYOU. The outside is ephemeral and fleeting. I believe that the only way for the issues to be fixed and better is that the outside help the individual realize that even in the depths of the darkness that is only they that posses the power to see the light and walk towards it. Nobody can force you to do anything.