i am a kind4 disrespectoor, but i may be capitulating i dont know. i have to use ndk and have custom super-gossip protocol to deliver kind1 or kind4 anyway. eg. dm4 doesnt work unless you send it to the target users read relays, same for kind 1.  but outbox pure-ism i believe just delivers em to my write relays 😂 where they will never get or respond there... and then who knows where the reply will go, usually only to damus relay, which is extremely limited now so, ya. inbox so quiet these days till people get the 44 setup..

basically i will just keep sending kind1s instead of dms until someone says stop.