are you going to tell me a punch in the face is the same as saying "i will punch you in the face if you don't take off your shirt"?

no, because they may not actually want to risk being punched back so you say "go ahead then" and give them a headbutt

and then they might not try to coerce you in the future

the difference is that the thing they want you to do is to submit to some edict, it's not the same as extortion, which is where they want you to give away property, they only want to take away a right

yes, it's still a kind of aggression, but force means they detain you, and they may beat you, kill you, that's force

most people don't want to do force, firstly, and secondly, when people start to do a lot of force, everyone else starts doing force and then you have a civil war or an insurrection

these people want power, violence (force) is just a means to an end... and coercion and extortion are cheaper, if they can scare you into submission