When you zap someone, their LNURL server has to be able to publish a receipt to the relays you request. If they're not allowed to publish it there, then nobody will see the zap.

I just improved this for our own Lightning accounts and relay over here, by checking if the zap request came from a relay member, and then allowing receipts to be published by non-members:

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