A child that inherits their parents toxic or detrimental behaviours (e.g. emotional eating, violence, alcoholism, gambling) would subconsciously think that they are committing a betrayal when attempting to overcome those same behaviours on themselves.

It’s becoming what we despised or resented, telling ourselves that’s what life is or what we deserve or what is normal, just so that we are loved and accepted by them (parents).

A child that was hit when growing up could say that they became a good person because they were hit, and hit their own children because that’s what a loving parent would do.

An obese person who as a child binge watched TV with junk food every day at 4pm because that’s what their family did may continue the pattern even after moving to their own place, so that they are still considered part of the clan.