This is not what I'm seeing, actually. Very occasionally I block someone in the comments - nastiness or just trollish bs - because there's some stuff I don't need to see, but mostly I love my feed. Find it informative and thought-provoking.
Can you (or someone) clarify: on Nostr, how would we see content from folks that we don't follow other than via reposts? I've never seen a post from someone that I don't follow.
(Not the main point of your post, but the idea that as an amab queer you're just not supposed to post your personal experience in particular threads ... idk, that seems bizarre to me.)