> i don't think they get to control, only to restrict, there's a difference, and if they do that too much they risk losing your subscription
Right, but if every provider does it, then where are you going to switch to? For instance port 25 incoming and outgoing traffic is blocked by default on every cloud service I've worked with in the US. You must express written formal request to open port 25 and submit a KYC. 

This is because government has laws in place to restrict this, but what are my choices?