this is the way for 1-to-many writes. 

now consider the inverse for reads: connect to 1 relay that fans in many relays. 1 websocket connection to the phone, dedupe happens on the server. I just need nip-42 to prevent crawlers from ddosing my fan in relay nostr:note1hagrnf4jzk37hhdtca5ysz4qjm2qt08tx78ypcx6dc0g3c0tcfas8e08t4