But people don't have narcissistic rage bouts, meltdowns and don't call you a nazi if you do not call them by their nickname. They do not demand that you in your head only think about them using their nickname, they don't demand you to truly believe that their nickname is their birth name and their real name never existed even if you knew them for years under that name. There are no laws defining usage of real names as discrimination or hatred. It is compelled speech. Therefore for people who are subjected to it, it's a matter of obedience or disobedience under the threat of social and legal punishment, not of politeness or entertaining someone's harmless idea. I mean that's just something to think about. It's good that you made it this far with your own wits.