With Approach 2, you would look at what activities white dudes do and compare these activities to what black people and women do and then try to figure out what the differences are. For example, if you do west coast swing dance and notice that it's very white/asian, you might ask the black folks you see where else black people dance, get an invite to go Chicago stepping, where you'll notice that you're the only non-black person in the room who isn't the significant other of a black person.