mate sometimes you say stuff that makes me think we run parallel lives. 

This is my experience. 

You go out and make a bit of money or whatever, and then someone in your life is struggling. You're their friend, and they say they arent happy, they have an obstacle in their life stopping them from getting on. There are 2 types of people. 

The first uses your help and because they truly wanted what they said. 

The second, was using the obstacle as a excuse to avoid achieving their potential, and now its awkward b/c you've called their bluff by believing in them more than they believed in themselves, and they're scared. Too guilty or ashamed to say, they let you down, ghost you etc.

Of course we're ultimately responsible. I would now, no sooner help someone who is not ready to evolve, than I would give a child an axe and a chainsaw because they want to be a fireman when they grow up.