1. I'm describing end user nodes. Every node has to manage liquidity and routes some way or another otherwise you can't send or receive. It's not a routing node exclusive concern.

2. Unnanounced channels are NOT private. They are easily found by probing and looking on-chain. Don't operate under that assumption nor perpetuate that misnomer myth.

If you want a real world example of a end user self custodial pain:
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