“One of the small, but effective, things we can do, is to simply openly acknowledge and clearly state that we are asking them to sacrifice personally and do something that is difficult and challenging, and that we value their willingness to adopt that burden because it is good for all of us, in aggregate, and their family and neighborhood, in particular.

Tell them the truth. No more gaslighting. No more romanticism. No more decades-long search for Mr. 6/6/6. Return to the concept of marriage as a vocation.”

1000% this 👆🏻

Our culture has come to some belief that we should want things because they are easy and we should desire no responsibility and everything is supposed to be easy and always happy. Rather than understanding the meaning and value of those things that are explicitly hard, and accept that.

Our culture has been gaslighting us into believing utter nonsense about all of our choices, pretending there are no trade offs, and that the key to happiness is to escape all responsibility… when life is nothing of the sort.

The secret to life (imo) is accepting and taking head on the inescapable hard things, understanding and being open to the clear trade offs we have to make, and not deluding ourselves with nonsense and fairy tales.