So in a nutshell I didn’t have a high school or college sweetheart, it was more a blurr.  I didn’t marry until age 40, because the examples shown to me were that marriage doesn’t work.  I wish that were different, and I had regrets about not marrying someone years ago but that faded eventually and I did learn a lesson.  Thankfully Jesus found me.  Then I saw what His true love is.  After that more things clicked, including my real desire to be married and begin my family.

Being a single child from a broken family, I wanted to stay married and not provide an example for my children in the way my parents had shown me.  I would learn that I have to (!) live out my faith so our kids would see it, marinate in it and live it as they grow up, so that they would then know it.  Of course they need to own their faith.  Teach you children well (CSN), who borrowed it from scripture “Train up a child in the way he should go and when he is old he will not depart from it”  proverbs 22:6

Dare I assume here that I am writing this to the questioner who is a younger man?  Faith or not, here’s a question you don’t have to respond to.  What’s in your way?  What holds you back?  Fear?  Maybe the culture is underneath the skin too deep?  Jesus penetrates the soul because man in his strength can do nothing (though we fight that do we not?)  The grass withers and the flower fades but the word of the Lord will live forever.

It’s time to live boldly, men.  What are you waiting for?