It's also crazy how many opinions there will be, and it turns out any language is only as performant and safe as the person writing it, and the algorithms used. I'm pretty fluent in like 5 or 6 languages and I continue to gravitate toward C-ish languages. I can write much better, large scale applications in C# than I can in C generally. So I cut out the high performance components, write it in C and link my C# app at load time. 

It also depends on how much time you want to spend farting with things too. For me, I've spend hundreds of hours hacking C# to avoid the GC and work directly with memory when I need to. 

I suggest trying a few langs and seeing what sticks. Most languages will get you there, maybe you could make a list of YOUR OWN tradeoffs and avoid some online opinions for the time being. It matters what you can write best in. 

Finally, I'm not a traditional developer, I generally don't prioritize the standards that (what I call) "trade" developers care about, such as readability being #1. I refuse to sacrifice obvious efficiency for the sake of it being easier for lazy and whiny developers to read. If it happens it happens, but it's like 3rd on my list.