thank you so much for all of this. I love tea. and I  don't like coffee 😬

I don't think it is nuts at all. it comes from your experiences and it's very well thought. I'm sorry you lived these experiences with this word. I don't think nice is a compliment either and I like how you see it with loving eyes when some people told you that, and also know what they probably meant. 

English is not my first language and it's really hard for me to write in English. but I can read whatever you want to talk about it, if you want to.