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Dating is a skillset just like anything else

I used to be absolutely terrible (conveyed major neediness and low masculinity), spent a few years really learning & practicing, and improved significantly

"Be yourself" is a nice sounding phrase, but if people aren't getting the results they want, they should strive to IMPROVE themselves, should they not? 
 Perspective and philosophy on such a topic can vary greatly. Dating might have a different definition from one person to the next, and hold different a level of value. 

Always work on yourself, for yourself and the rest will come naturally. 

Being a bitcoiner, you already know what your values are. Don't be a slave to any idea. 

She will come. :) 
 Absolutely agree with that! 💯 
 We need to let go the irrational fears before we can express our true selves.

If we don't, all we're expressing is our ego or some PUA trick to have a moment of pleasure.