Think I'm understanding. From that perspective, I'd rather not use the term  "real" because it implies a universal shared concreteness.

"Meaning" however, or the process of generating meaning - semiosis is what i like to use because even though whatever is most meaningful is different for everyone and changes all the time, the process is the same. Shared across all living beings, semiotaxis - movement towards meaning is what we all engage in. 

When framed in terms of meaning, whatever is "real" doesn't matter. In fact, nothing that has no meaning to you matters.

From that, my response is:
"Find that which is most meaningful to you, and pursue it."

Small footnote: if you want to read more into semiotics, semiosis and semiotaxis, stay away from the linguistic interpretation because that's not what I'm talking about.  I'm talking about the framing from biosemiotics - or the study of how living beings generate meaning.